In the Bible it says that to God a day is like a thousand years and a thousand years is like a day. It seems hard to fathom that except on days like today. Today, Mother's Day, I think I can almost catch a glimpse of what that must be like. Can it really be my tenth Mother's Day without you? How is it possible that the earth still rotates around the sun? The passage of time seems to have come and gone in an instant. I can still see you in my mind as clearly today as I could then. If I close my eyes I can see your smile, I can feel your embrace, I can see you sitting at the table with your coffee in front of you chewing on your pinky finger, I can see you driving me in your car and hear you asking me, "What do you want to do now Kong?" It was only a moment ago and yet...
I realize this morning how close we are to July. How in two short months my birthday will be here and my heart will sink. All I will be able to think of is how helpless I felt not being able to help you. How in that instance and so many others, I was reminded that I have no control. I have to relinquish all of it to God and allow him to not only help you but to help me too. How can it be that it will be eleven years since you went home to be with our Lord? Ten years of Mother's Day's come and gone. Eleven years of raising kids come and gone.
So yes, it feels today as though all those years were just a day ago. A moment has passed and you aren't here and my kids are almost grown and you weren't here to witness it. I haven't been able to call you while making dinner. I haven't been able to see you laugh at my struggle with teenage girls. I haven't been able to watch your relationship with them grow as they have grown. All of these things make me sad for what could have been had Cancer not entered our lives.
I feel sad for what might have been, what maybe should have been but then I realize that a moment ago is almost eleven years ago and while you were with God, God was also with me. I may not have my mother here but I am a mother. I'm not alone anymore now than I was when you left. How could I be? This morning my children brought me breakfast in bed, they gave me a card and sang me a song. My husband gave me a short back rub and told me he loved me before going to work. When I go downstairs there will be the "Hallway of Mother's Day" that the children create every year with signs of love and pictures they drew even after all of these years.
It is funny the passage of time. The tears may come later but the healing that God provides is fresh every morning. The writing helps. The thought that even though you aren't here with me that maybe you get the messages I send out into the great unknown void. No you aren't here in flesh but I see you when I look at my middle child. Sometimes I look at her and I see you as you were in pictures as a younger girl. I hear you in the things that my oldest says. I think of you when I see my son and think of how great of a young man he turned out to be and how terrified we both were that I was having a boy. There was nothing to be scared of, of course, he is so much like his dad and you thought he was the best guy ever. I used to joke that you would have traded me for him any day of the week. You would have thought the same of our son.
Your memory surrounds me and they are the good memories. The memories of good times had. The memory of a mother who was always there no matter how tired she was. The memory of a mother who worked hard and instilled a good work ethic that I hope I have passed on to my own children. These are the thoughts of a healing heart. The heart protected by a loving God who knows my hurt. For that I am thankful. I love you mom. I miss you every day. Enjoy your Mother's Day in Heaven. I may not be able to shower you with gifts but I have a feeling that spending your day in paradise with the King of all creation is better than what I could provide. Plus I prayed that He would give you a hug from me. My bases are covered.
Thank you for being my mom, for loving me and my family.