I have been living in the middle. I have been living in the waiting. So basically, I’m in the season of waiting in
the middle. It is unsatisfying,
frustrating, heart breaking, stressful, and it robs my rest. Did you watch the series finale of The
Middle? My family has so many similarities
to the Heck family. I cried all the way
through the finale and I probably only watched a handful of episodes when it
was on. I’m not sure why, perhaps it
seemed like my life was in the show and I already knew the story. I did watch the finale because I wanted a
glimpse into how it all turned out. I wanted
to see the end. That’s the thing isn’t
it? We always want to see the end, so we
can get through the middle. At the start
we can’t wait to get to the middle because then we know we are almost there.
I have spoken recently to my best friend about how I’m unsatisfied
with my performance in life. I have a
great life that I fully do not deserve, don’t get me wrong, I am well beyond
blessed. She knows that as do I. It is
only that I am not sure that I have or that I am really contributing anything
to the world at large. I’m not so sure I am a very good example to my children.
She said to me, “Maybe you need to
reevaluate your definition of success.” Maybe…
I told my husband this weekend that I feel like I’m always
in the middle waiting. Before we moved
it was waiting for the house to sell so we could get on with our lives, now it’s
waiting for a school to call and give me a job so I can feel like I’m making a
difference somewhere in the world. Always
waiting for my kids to have confidence in themselves, for them to see
themselves how they really are and not how they tell themselves they are or how
some stupid kid saw them in high school.
Waiting for a friend to call, waiting for direction, waiting for a sign
from God as to what my purpose and direction is supposed to be because here I
am still waiting and wondering if my life has even mattered at all. He asked me one question, “Have you been
having trouble living in the moment?”
Have I?
I then happened upon a picture on Facebook that had a list
of successful people and it said that they were all basically broke or had been
fired or were working doing things they didn’t necessarily want to be doing
when they were twenty-three. Now they
are all very successful and it said it was all going to be ok. Well I’m not twenty-three anymore, so I asked
the question, “Sure, but what were they doing at forty-five?” My oldest daughter decided to look it up and
see just where they were at forty-five.
The were all going to movie premiers and hosting award shows and the
like and I was tempted to become quite discouraged all over again.
I’ve been listening to a few preachers online. I’m trying to get over this negative track
that likes to play in my head. One
preacher in particular was saying that we spend more time listening to
ourselves and less time talking to ourselves.
It’s true. I spend a lot of time
listening to the ongoing playlist. “God would never use you, you are
ridiculous. God doesn’t even talk to you
anymore. When is the last time you wrote
anything?” “You are too old, you are too
broken.” “You are too sinful, What did
you just say about that other driver?” “Don’t
you remember what you were told when you were a kid? You are ugly and you will NEVER amount to
anything!” “Give up no one reads your
writing anyway unless they are related to you.”
STOP! The preacher said that we
need to spend more time talking to ourselves.
We need to spend more time preaching to ourselves. He also said that we talk ourselves out of
what God has planned for us.
Another time he did a sermon that we are in the middle. Salvation means we are not what we once were,
but we are not what we want to be. He said
that we need to look back to see how far we have come, that the expectation is
that as we grow we get closer to Christ, but the thing is we stay in the
middle. When we start getting close He
moves forward. I take that to mean that
the finish line keeps moving. We need to
recognize how far we have come but still be mindful of where we are going.
I think I’ve figured it out now. I’ve continued to keep looking forward at
things that seem to take too long. I see
it as taking a step forward and two steps back.
I just keep forgetting to look back.
Oh sure, the saying don’t look back you don’t live there anymore is what
you are thinking. But here’s the thing,
if you never look back to see how far you have gone you will not be able to
appreciate the middle. You won’t be able
to see that He is in the middle too. He
isn’t just in the beginning to get your started on your journey and then he
skips ahead and is waiting until we get to Heaven to ask us what took us so
long. I wasn’t until my daughter showed
me where all those “successful” people were at forty-five that my ‘yeah but’
showed up. I have even listened to another preacher talk about the ‘yeah but’. Weeks ago, I listened to this and I’ve
listened to all of these messages more than once. What can I say, apparently I’m a slow learner?
My yeah but did arrive as I was reading where they
were. So here’s mine: Sure I have not written any best sellers that
have been made into movies, I haven’t hosted an award show, I haven’t landed a
job that I had planned for myself, BUT by the age of forty-five I have had
three children, two of which have already earned associate degrees and are
working on their bachelor degrees. I
have managed to put food in their bellies and no one has ended up in the
hospital due to my cooking. I have lost
my mother and fallen into the pit and fallen off my beam for far too long and
by the grace of God gotten back on again.
I have had a miscarriage and while I miss having my number four I haven’t
missed my children because of the loss of the one. I have written and published two books that
didn’t become New York Times best sellers but at least ten people that I am not
related to have read them and one time someone left a review that said my book
helped them to see God. I have moved
away from everything and everyone I ever knew and while two years later I haven’t
got everything down pat here I have become braver than I ever was. I’ve been uncomfortable. I’ve met new people that I never would have
met and I am eternally blessed to know them.
I have repeatedly show that when I get knocked down I can, with help,
get back up again. Why? Because HE is in the middle. HE is in the waiting.
1 comment:
This has been my very struggle since my stroke over 3+ years ago. The things I did before, vs the things I do now. Thank you for reminding me no matter where I am, God is there, and life was meant to be lived regardless of where it's at
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